9 Oct 2013

MINTY GREEN CHOCOLATE CREAM BARS + A LITTLE HEARTBREAK


Note: I know I usually keep things light and cheery on my blog but I lay my heart out a little bit in this post; I hope that's okay with you. It just kinda happened.

I got an email from a reader a couple (?) weeks ago, in which they asked me to recreate a raw treat served at their local cafe. This treat was a "delicious choc mint slice cake" and it looks like this. Oh and apparently some of the ingredients are green powders. That is what I had to go on. Into the kitchen I went! Ended up with these bad boys and BOY, ARE THEY BAD (in a good way).


The base is an oat and date crust, the middle is a raw chocolate-maca mixture, and the top is an avocado/mint/green powder concoction. All together they make one amazing result. And they are SUPER nutritious. Think of this recipe as a health supplement and dessert all in one. I know, life seems too good to be true sometimes. Just like my cat, Dante, seems too adorable to be real. He is currently trying to divert my attention to me rubbing his ears and kissing his nose. He does this by pulling my hand away from the computer mouse and to his face. CAN HE GET ANY CUTER? No.


Back to food. I won't lie; I made these a couple days ago and since I never write down my recipes, the precise amounts of ingredients are now slightly foggy in my confusingly and consistently fluid mind. This means your recipe may not turn out EXACTLY as what you see in these photos, but that's cool, right!? Life is about variety. Try making the recipe and adjusting it to your liking. I mean, you should always do this but you know... just sayin'. If it turns out horribly, please tell me - because maybe I forgot to write an ingredient down. 


Well, since there's nothing left to discuss concerning the recipe, I am going to rant a little about my personal life right now, because I'm feeling kinda low. Maybe it's just the change of seasons (hello, Autumn); maybe I'm getting bored with my day-to-day routine; or maybe, subconsciously, I don't WANT to be happy all the time! In any case, I'm glum as a chum. What's a chum. Irrelevant. 

I'm having a lot of mixed emotions involving past and current lovers, what they mean to me, and how they make me feel and think (compared to how I would on my own). You have to understand that I'm an independent person. I have always valued time by myself and often cancel or avoid plans with friends so I can have MORE time alone. It's not that I don't like my friends, I simply am most comfortable when left by myself, in my own head space. I have trouble - more so lately - expressing myself to others successfully and this usually makes me just want to give up communicating. Fortunately there's a few people in my life who understand this, and we can spend time together not saying a word. As recently acknowledged with a newly intimate partner, you don't have to talk to have beautiful conversations with another person. 


Having said that, I still feel that no one really gets me, but me. Thus I prefer to be left alone because that is where I am most comfortable. And yet I find myself missing certain people from my past. Are they thinking about me? Do they still love me? Do they still hate me? Do they think I am a terrible or beautiful person? Regardless, I can't be with them anymore... we had too much passion for two people. They knew me as much as any person possibly could but ultimately they didn't like what they saw, and neither did I. 

Talk about "fate"; this person literally just called me as I was typing that last sentence. Apparently they do love me, but we will "never be speaking again". Now I am almost in tears. Too much emotion for one person

With all that going on (and now being done with, apparently...), I have also struck up a new flame. Whether it's a rebound or not, I do not know. But either way it's nothing serious, and mostly for pure and simple fun. It's very pleasant having a partner you can be candid and affectionate with. I think we can all benefit from being completely naked with someone (literally and/or figuratively). It's therapeutic and can be healing if you allow it. But now I am polarized: I am starting to care about this person in a serious way so I want to spend more time with them while at the same time, I am wanting to cut things off because of the same reason. 

Here is where we return to my need for independence. I believe I shouldn't have to depend on any external substance to be happy, and that includes people. When I begin getting very close with a romantic partner, I find that I quickly become "addicted" to them; I want to spend all my time with them, give them everything I can, and simultaneously throw all my other responsibilities out the window. Obviously this is not healthy, so I don't want it to be this way. Perhaps this is a reason I love being alone: it stamps out any chance of me becoming dependent on another person. Ah, who knows. Not I. So I am left unsure of what to do about this new individual, my heart and brain being pulled in opposing directions; while I am still recovering from a very trying, emotionally-charged and painful relationship with another that is now "officially" over. 

I suppose that wasn't a conclusive story at all... but that's fitting, since my thoughts and decisions on these situations and relationships aren't conclusive either. I'm in the dark midst of figuring out what to do and think and how to feel about all this. 

No matter, here's a healthy recipe for you guys. Thank you for always being here for me and giving me your love and support. It's very helpful for me to write out my thoughts and I hope they are in someway useful to you; whether you can relate, contrast, or simply sympathize. You're my rock! 


minty green chocolate cream bars 

Base:
1 cup oats or buckwheat groats
1 cup dates
1 teaspoon cacao powder (optional) 
1 teaspoon vanilla extract (optional) 

Chocolate layer:
2 tablespoons cacao powder
1/4 cup melted cacao butter
1/4 cup dates
1 tablespoon maca powder
1 tablespoon lucuma powder
1 banana (optional, to add bulk) 

Mint layer:
1 avocado
3-4 tablespoons greens powder (I used this one)
1/6 cup coconut nectar (or other preferred liquid sweetener) 
2 tablespoons melted coconut oil 
1/8 cup packed mint leaves (or approximately 10 drops of peppermint oil) 
1 teaspoon vanilla extract 
Pinch of salt (optional) 

To make the base layer: pulse the oats or buckwheat groats in your food processor until you have a rough flour. Add the rest of the ingredients and process until it all begins to stick together. Press into the bottom of a lined baking pan and put in the fridge. 

To make the chocolate: blend all the ingredients together until smooth. If it's too thick, add some water. Pour onto your base and put in the freezer until solid, about 1 hour. 

To make the mint layer: blend all the ingredients until smooth. Spread onto your chocolate layer and refrigerate overnight until it's set. Decorate with mint leaves and cacao nibs if you wish. 

54 comments:

  1. I made mint chocolate chip tartlettes this week, so we both must be in a minty mood! Great minds think alike ;). This looks like pure deliciousness by the way!

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  2. Em, thanks for sharing this amazing looking cake, as well as your heart, with us. I send internet hugs your way - OOO -

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  3. wow, we might be generations apart, but this is me to a tee, ..right now aswell..apart from a few little details.

    you are an inspiration, one of my favorite vegan blogs,..:)

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  4. this. looks. amazing. <3 <3 Don't be sad, be happy that someone new likes you! You're going to fall in love lots with many people, ideas, situations. That's just life dude, one door closes another opens.

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  5. I totally getcha on the whole getting addicted to your partner thing, I'm someone who loves spending time to myself, reading a book or just spacing out and listening to music. When I started dating my boyfriend 3 years ago we were addicted to eachother! I was staying up late and going to work so so tired! I felt like a 15 year old again who had stayed up chatting online till 2am! I was addicted to the excitement and passion. 3 years on things have settled down, we've both moved in together and I get tonnes of space cuz he works in the evening sometimes, so there is heaps of balance and I find myself quite cotent and not smothered at all. I say just enjoy his company, if there's an opportunity take it! I am finding that sometimes I think to myself that I'd rather be at home by myself, but when I do say yes to an outting I find that I really am glad that I spent that time with my friends instead and created awesome memories :)

    I hope you work it out! I've been bummed out too recently,more so with work stuff. I swear something is in the air! Whenever I feel down, I think 'I don't want to be bummed out!' So I start to think of all the shit I' grateful for and all the awesome things I want to manifest in my life. I try to remember I have a choice in how I feel, but it's easy to want to stay in the dumps when you're feeling shitty. Am I right? I think so! I think my ego knows and loves it!


    Anyways, hope you have a fricken awesome day/night/evening.

    Jess
    Sydney, Australia

    xx

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  6. This looks amazing :) what can i substitute for cacao butter?

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  7. you are a love. thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. enjoying being alone is beautiful and so is being with people... no pressure to communicate any certain way. remember that you are divinely you and the only you. relationships are containers for growth. feeeel those feelings too, no right or wrong ones. and enjoy yourself! XO and keep on keepin' on with your gorgeous soul food gifts!

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  8. thanks for the recipe and for sharing your heart... I feel you on the relationship front. I feel very similarly, enjoy being independent but then feel "addicted" to my partner... unfortunately I'm in the same boat as you and have no advice to give as of yet. Hopefully we both learn :-)

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  9. All my love to you! Without trying to sound superficial, I can relate to your blues. Maybe it's the Vancouver weather? (Let's pretend it's raining again so we can use that excuse) I suggest dancing. Seriously. Go somewhere, anywhere, (or don't) and just dance your heart out. Sometimes earphones help. Midnight dancing in the streets is one of my favourite passtimes.
    xoxoxo

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  10. delish dessert recipe! && *internet hugs* <3

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  11. I don't like chocolate and mint together but, I love this gem of a blog I just found. So many recipes about my favorite subject, chocolate.
    I say you can have your independence, alone time and be in a relationship all at the same time. Your partner just needs to be on the same page. You have to allow yourself to be you (independent, introverted, etc.), and express your needs in order for the relationship to work.

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  12. HUGS AND KISSES! I also suggest dancing in the rain, yoga and doing spontaneous, fun things. Such as going out on a beautiful trip somewhere, even if it ends up being a hike nearby, or treating yourself to dinner somewhere with an mp3 of lovely tracks. I do that and it is a little awkward the first couple of times, but now I really enjoy taking myself out for a treat.



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  13. Thanks for being "naked" with us. It's always refreshing to be able to not only enjoy the recipes on a blog but also the person sharing them.

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  14. Gahhh, I'm in a somewhat(?) similar situation and I can relate to so much of what you're saying.

    It's tough trying to be with someone without making them the center of my universe and feeling like I'm "losing myself" somehow! I tell myself that when the "right" person comes along, they will help me to be a better version of myself: productive, responsible, happy, etc...

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  15. Dear Ems, It's okay to be alone, as it is okay to be happy with another person. Besides, according to Greek mythology, all humans were originally born with two heads, four arms, four legs... But they were thorn apart for some reason. And when you find your other 'half', you're complete again. I'd like to see the other half not just as another person you depend on, but another side of your original self. Do with these thought as you like, for me it helps to think this way.

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  16. Don't worry Em, you are young, talented and deserving. If anything it is better to be independent when you are young. I have spent most of my 20's in serious (and seriously messed up) relationships and wish I hadn't. I have had my fair share of fun but it has also been agony. You will find that as our travels through the space time continuum evolve, our perspectives change and it can help you find the right people to spend your precious moments with. I say have fun being "single" (whatever that means to you) and focus on being who you want to be. You seem pretty cool to me :) Cyber hugs, Zoe. Your friend in East Van.

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  17. Hey Emily... I honestly feel a lot like you (although you are a lot better at finding the right words to say)! I also feel like I need space and time alone to think and a lot of people don't seem to appreciate that - they seem to think it is a flaw in character. I don't know if it is or not but it does get to me...

    I think you are absolutely amazing and have an incredible maturity (seeing as we are the same age!). I am not vegan (yet) but I absolutely love your passion, creativity, outlook on life and of course your ingenious recipes! You are truly an inspiration! Keep it up :)

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  18. I really understand the time alone bit- I have always been that way too, only now I have a wonderful partner. Luckily he understands my need, and we compromise. When you get to the right time in your life, committing to one person and the security and validation it brings can be really conducive to growth and wellbeing. Meanwhile, you are so obviously a wonderful person- I can tell from your writing- you deserve to enjoy relationships just the way you want them to be :)

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    1. PS: ...and thanks so much for another amazing recipe- can't wait to try it out!

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  19. The biggest issue your facing is communication. It is easier to cope with the tides of emotions when you can express them. Be patient and try new things on that front and don't forget to take responsibility for others not understanding you if you haven't yet worked out how to communicate. That is natural.

    Take a pause from thinking about it to give you some distance to see the wood from the trees. 100% agree with the lady who said DANCE. You already have the answer but you're letting the swirly things cloud it for now.

    P.s. Amazing blog. Can't wait for the book.

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  20. Emily thank you for the recipe but more importantly thank you for sharing. I have been feeling very much the same in what seems to be a similar situation. I was with someone for just over 2 years and we had a terrible breakup over a year ago now and we haven't spoken for 4 months. I am an independent person I have always done things for myself but when I was with him I found he was on my mind 24/7 and my thoughts and behaviour were constantly focused on him. We were very passionate about each other, and we argued all the time. It is so upsetting and frustrating to have feelings for someone but at the same time you know they are not right for you. What has been most important for me to acknowledge is that I did not like the person I was when I was around him.

    I really hope everything works out for you. Thinking of you xx

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    1. Sigh - thank you, Amy. I'm really happy that you can relate, it certainly makes ME feel better. Sounds like we had very similar relationships - too much passion = unhealthy! :( Much love to you. x

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  21. Emily, thanks for sharing the recipe. Looks yummy!

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  22. I just had to say that I completely understand where you are coming from. In fact, yesterday I was just thinking about how when I was younger, I wouldn't date for a very long time because I didn't understand how you could be close to someone and then ultimately hate them in the long run. The reality of it was I couldn't handle giving away myself and being vulnerable with such high risk of being denied. Too hurtful.

    It would be remiss of me to blankly say to buck up and keep smiling--if you are anything like me, when I expose my feelings to others, I just want to know someone hears me. You are already a cheerful girl so you know how to make yourself happy, so I am just going to tell you that I hear you Emily. I hear that there is an undercurrent of emotion, more than you let on, and just know that all of us here love you and are standing behind you, supporting you in whatever way you need.

    (And if I could chime in on one thing): I say enjoy where you are at with this new flame. I think it's supposed to be addictive initially :) I think maybe if we accept that it is, we become less tough on ourselves for being "weak" and more okay with allowing ourselves to let go and just go with it. That is the hardest thing for a girl who was raised to be independent to accept. Trust. But coming from someone who used to always be alone, I have never felt more like ME then when I accepted that I am not failing myself by being dependent on another and that there is nothing wrong with that at all...

    Much love, Cara xo!

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    1. Wow thanks SO MUCH for that,Cara. I mean it when I say I appreciated every word. You're right about all that, I am pretty sure. xoxo

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  23. Ah. I totally understand what you mean. I'm a big loner, too - I just like doing things my own way, by myself, undisturbed - but we're only human, and humans crave companionship to a certain degree, you know? I used to think that love had to be crazy tumultuous, maybe because my parents' relationship was so bland and clearly fizzling out. But that's not necessarily true for everyone. The love I share with my current boyfriend (of 1.5 years) is a steady kind of love, and I've found that's what suits me best. But it takes practice - and heartbreak to figure out how to love somebody.

    And most importantly, you can't love someone else in a healthy way if you don't love yourself. I was terrified of getting into another relationship because I thought that person might consume me just like the others had. But if I felt confident enough by myself, no one could take that away. It is possible to be independent whilst being in love with someone.

    As for your lovely recipe (good lord, I nearly died looking at the pictures) keeping a recipe journal/doodle book helps to keep track of your experiments :)

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    1. Oh thanks so much for that. You're the best cyber buddy ever :D I hear ya. And thank you!!! xo

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  24. These bars are so beautiful! I'll probably never make them because I'm not really a dessert-making person, but I love looking at them. I've never commented on your blog before, but your story about your romantic partners struck me. I, too, am an intensely independent person, and I also want to give my all to whoever I'm seeing, even if it's not that serious. Then I worry about how that drains my independence. It's like I use the other person as an excuse to ignore all the things I want to be doing like writing, reading, and cooking. I haven't found a good answer for how to handle this. I recently just got out of a two-year relationship and am enjoying the time alone. I wonder how long I can go before I feel I "need" the comfort of another body, I guess. Anyway, just wanted to tell you that your feelings are not weird or unusual. Just stay focused on what you love about yourself.

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    1. We're totally in the same spot. Thank you for sharing xox

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  25. First of all, these bars look fantastic! You continually amaze me with the things you create and your photography is beautiful.

    Secondly, I understand where you're coming from and so do a lot of other people by the looks of it. I love being alone. When it comes to relationships with people I usually find that when I'm with them I want yo be alone and when I'm alone I want to be with them. All I'm trying to say is what you're feeling is normal and okay. I hope you find the peace you are looking for. I certainly know how it is when you get stuck in your own head. Sending love your way!

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  26. I remember telling my best friend some months back, "I need to write a letter to myself - from my single-self to my in-like with someone self - reminding her of her values and her independence, and not to lose that to someone." I said this because my rational, single-self is (was?) scared of relationships for the same reason you are… When I was 19, I fell in love with the guy I went on to be with for 3 years. When I finished the relationship, I realised that somewhere along the line, I had lost myself: being alone again meant I got to rediscover what I liked doing. All this said, I think I have learned a lot, and at the wise old age of 25 ( ;) ), I think I’d be able to balance my own life with someone else’s a little better. And you’re in good stead as it is: I think you’re a lot more savvy and in tune with yourself than I ever was at 19. But I also want to add; I think relationships are supposed to be a bit tricky… Hollywood has sold us the idea of the perfect romance, as well as the ‘perfect attitude,’ but actually, there’s a kind of beauty in our ‘flawed,’ complicated humanness. As my ramble suggests, there is no real answer. But maybe you’ll take some comfort in knowing you’re not alone in figuring these things out (watching GIRLS will tell you as much!); and that at the very least, all the heartbreaks will only serve to make you more empathetic, understanding – and interesting in your old age! Much love xo

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing. I totally get what you are talking about. Much love xo

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  27. Being an introvert is hard. Seems like a lot of people don't know what it actually means and just assume the person is really shy or something. But every now and then you meet people who are also introverts or who aren't, but understand. I'm a big believer in the 1+1=2 philosophy. Meaning I don't want to be someone's other half or complete someone...I believe a relationship should be two independent, fully complete people who want to be together and are a good fit. Also, I tend to follow this other sort of mantra with relationships; when I'm with someone I'm with them, and when I'm not they don't worry about where I am. That doesn't mean I cheat on people. I don't. It just means I value my independence and do not want the clingy, call to check in all the time type of relationship.
    I often think in music so some songs immediately came to mind reading your post. You should listen to some Fiona and some Laura Marling. Both amazing lyricists and, I suspect, fellow introverts too.

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    1. Thank thank thank youuuu. You're one smart person. xxx

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    2. You're welcome. And thank you! Also, to echo what some other people have mentioned, change, and the resulting contradictory feelings, are totally normal. Some people embrace change more than others. I see it as a positive thing. There's actually a topical quote from an interview with Laura Marling you might find helpful/insightful too that sums up the point I'm trying to make here.
      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laura_Marling#Personal_life

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    3. on the subject of introversion I highly suggest the book "Quiet" by Susan Kaine (sorry if it has already been mentioned above). Its a truly wonderful and encouraging book for someone, like myself, who likes to be alone and is trying to figure out what that means. Underlying her entire book - which uses various scientific studies as well as personal experiences - i believe are two basic ideas/definitions/theses that I think are SUPER interesting. 1. the difference between introverts and extroverts is not one of sociability but that extroverts recharge their "batteries" with other people and introverts alone. 2. that introverts have a nature that takes in a LOT of stimulus (and therefore develop patterns of behavior that protect them from OVER stimulation); and extroverts have a nature that takes in LITTLE stimulus (and therefore develop patterns of behavior of SEEKING stimulation).... in contrast to a stigma in our society that introverts are anti-social or cut off from the world - in fact they may be taking in much and very deeply!!

      sorry if i went in too much detail or this is not interesting. But it has been such a huge help for me.
      l am sorry you are going through this. I know all to well how it feels. but i also think its sort of what lifes about. wobbling around and trying to figure out who we are over and OVER again. its so dang hard! ha

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  28. You are so Rawsome!!! ;)
    I love this so much and I love your blog too! Wowwy yum!
    And to stumble on a real heart-opening post too - the door is wide open for me to stumble in or not.... i was contemplating even commenting.... but hell, here I am and here's my two cents (canadian too ;))

    So what do I know about love and what advice could I offer you... ???
    I have been with the same guy now for 16 years and guess what? I met him when I was 16!! ;)
    So that makes me spend exactly 1/2 of my entire life with one person, it makes me a wife to him and a mom to his child (another on the way)... it makes me realize we've lasted longer more than most marriages I know...
    I still don't know the secret, I suppose every relationship has a different one... but here's a few things that I want to share - see yourself in the future with that person, connect, admire them, get silly with them, do nice things for them even if you're tired yet you do anyway because you love them, will they do this for you?, don't expect them to read your mind, (guys suffer with this big time, and for some reason women think they have this superpower), be real and honest..... and make each other laugh! Share some passions but it's ok if you are different! respect those differences! ;)
    Oh I think that does it for my little tips on Love! ;) I hope this helps somehow.... you deserve the best!
    *hugs*!!!
    Ella

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  29. You are completely and categorically *not* alone in this! I nodded along to every word you wrote, having been in similar situations myself. I'm quite a bit older than you and I can say that you are already doing it right, keeping "in touch" with yourself and knowing what's going on. Yes, we deeply feeling types get hurt sometimes. No, it doesn't kill us (although it feels like it). And there are only ever temporary solutions for the conflicting desire for others and overwhelming need to be alone. But you know what? It's all good. Life is like that. We keep figuring it out, no two relationships are the same, and fitting in this independence that makes us look a little asocial sometimes, isn't easy (especially on top of a job and, gods forbid, hobbies!).
    Thanks for your blog, the beautiful pictures and recipes, and for being beautiful you :-)

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  30. Thank you! This post was exactly what I needed! I've been so down the past few weeks about my past relationships and trying to just be okay with being alone (I have the same problem with getting addicted to the person I'm in a relationship with). I'm usually an extreme extrovert so I love being around people all the time! But I am finding more peace with my alone time! Can't wait to try out this recipe! Especially since my down mood has caused me to break on my raw diet. I need to get my body and mind happy before I can focus on someone else!

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  31. Emily,
    Thanks for commenting on my blog. You're blog is beautiful and now I'll have a great place to go for some Rawsome recipes!

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  32. This is a gorgeous blog and thank you. After reading your post, may I suggest this book? I listened to on CD and it was great and very eye opening. My best to you. http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/

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  33. Hi! I have been reading your blog forever (!) but haven't ever commented, it's not really something I usually do! But I can totally relate to your situation... I used to be in a relationship where it was essentially all I ever thought about, I just totally let myself dissolve into this guy and sort of lost spending time with myself and taking care of myself. It's pretty scary- because if you break up, you're left with this identity crisis since so much of your life was once dependent on this other person who "completed" you. I used to struggle with this until an amazing yoga teacher I go to was reminding me that each of us are already whole and complete, whether or not we are in a relationship, and about how a relationship should be like "two pillars": you're both supporting and loving each other and sharing your life with each other in a private and intimate way, but you're both unique and wonderful human beings and it's okay to recognize that you need time alone sometimes. I think this is important and the key to a lasting relationship- to spend time alone and to cultivate your own life, and at the same time being able to be intimate and close with someone. And you're totally right- other people can make us amazingly happy but ultimately only you yourself are responsible for your own happiness. My current boyfriend and I live together and resultantly spend a lot of time together, but we are still doing our own things in silence sometimes and ask each other for space when need be. But it definitely took me some practice (and I'm still learning) that it actually is okay to not spend every second together and to have time to do my own thing and cultivate a relationship with yourself. I think it really helps though to find the right person who can appreciate time alone as well, then it can be truly lovely!
    Hope that made sense and helped you in some small way!
    Peace!
    PS- amazing recipe as always! xo

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    1. Thank you for commenting, and for your love and advice. I really appreciate all of it. I am so glad you could relate, it makes me feel a bit less unhinged.

      xo -em

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  34. Hello, sweet supplier of addictive and healthy yumminess! :-)

    So, chocolate and mint = my all-time favorite combination, along with chocolate and peppermint. I thank you for this recipe a million times over. :-D

    In regards to your heartbreak, and utilizing my intuitive and energy healing skills, not to mention your honest dialogue, I see a couple of things: 1) You're still corded to those now-defunct relationships, whether from your end or from theirs, and 2) you may have difficulty moving forward, because your tender heart feels like you're turning your back on the people in question.
    As far as the cords go, making a conscious and specific statement that you are no longer in relationship with each person will go a long way toward releasing you from that heartbreak. When you do that, bless the person with your love - the person, not the relationship. Being clear about that is important.
    Say or think or write something like, "I am no longer in a relationship with so-and-so, and am now released from it. I wish him nothing but love on his life path without me." If you write it down, I would then suggest burning it. Powerful release.
    One final thing: I've noticed a lot of similar discord among friends and family this past week. Many people are experiencing inexplicable emotional difficulty, and most of it stems from their past. There is a lot going on from an energetic, astrological, and astronomical standpoint right now, and it's become a bit of a feeding frenzy; the one feeding on the other, and vice versa. It should begin to ease come the 18th. Peace.

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    1. Thank you thank you thank you, Ellen, for the invaluable advice and wisdom! You are a light in my LIFE! <3 <3

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  35. I feel you girl! One day at a time, that's what I say.
    xoxo
    Long time reader and virgin commenter.

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  36. Wow, you and I are extremely similar, everything unspecific you said about you personal life is exactly the way I am. I feel connected with you now!

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  37. Sending you lots of love and a hug from Ontario, Canada. Thanks for so generously sharing your time and talent with us. You are AWESOME! It's okay not to fit in with other people, I'm sure it's a challenge of many vegans. We live in the margins and THAT'S OKAY! Thank goodness for the internet where we can connect. These bars look great, I can't wait to make them. -- Sarina @ Earthgiven Kitchen

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  38. Em, this is a great post that made me do three things (in this order); drool over your minty slices, completely empathize with you and remember that I wanted to buy a loaf mould! Thanks for the latter by the way. Having read most of the comments on here, it seems there are a lot of us independent girls out there who go crazy over someone to the point where it becomes obsession. Good to know I guess. Like you I just become totally involved. Right now it's been three years since I was seeing this guy who just stopped talking to me (?) and I STILL think about him and frequently wonder if he thinks about me. Answer: Probably not. I just can't seem to shake feelings off like most of my friends, and since that time when he traded me up, I've been a completely different person. I feel like I've lost ME. I don't know.. this hasn't been advice as I intended. I'd love to hear how you progress with these feelings though, Ellen M. Gregg's guidance was brilliant- I intend to try it too. Now excuse me while I go and wallow into some kind of cacao based food. (LOVE your blog by the way) X

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  39. I forgot that I came to this page to look up a recipe when I started reading your post. I don't usually comment, but I just had to. It spoke volumes to me and I felt as if I was reading about myself and my own life. I can completely in every way empathize with your situation. I go through the exact same thing all too often. Keep your chin up. Hope you're doing well and I definitely need to try some of your recipes! They look and sound delicious! :)

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